Written by Adrian Leach – Senior Mindset Coach at Samuel and Co Trading
Hi everyone, welcome back to my weekly article. In the last article, I shared with you a wonderful technique that is simple, safe and effective called EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques. This process is so simple and effective that young children are able to easily use the process to help deal with their emotional issues. Don’t get put off by the methodology or simplicity of this process. It is more powerful than you can imagine, and why it is used in more than 20 countries. By now, I hope you are beginning to appreciate the power of the mind-body connection. You are an energetic being and, by tapping on your acupuncture points, you’re actually making changes not only to your energy system but also your nervous system and right on down to the cellular level.
I get concerned when I’m asked to provide techniques to help you deal with the emotional aspects that surround the trader’s mindset, and get no feedback from the community. Please let me know if you’re getting on with EFT? If you are struggling to grasp the basics then let me know, so that I can help you. I can only meet you 50% of the way, you have to put the other 50% effort into meeting me. So, when are you going to take that first step and make the necessary changes to your emotional mindset? What are you going to change? And when are you going to start? There’s never a ‘right’ time to start to change, so stop putting it off. Just do it.
Or, is it the effort of you actually getting off your ‘Butt’ and doing something that’s an issue in itself? Remember, this technique only takes a few moments to do. Let me guide you through another way to use the same process, but a more advanced way to incorporate different aspects surrounding the issue and multiple uses of the Reminder Phrase.
To recap in EFT part – 1, we went through the basic procedure using just one single statement to address an issue that we repeat three times in the Set-up Statement:
Step 2 Set-up Statement: ‘Even though (I had an argument with my best friend and now I’m really angry about it) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Step 3. Reminder Phrase: ‘(This anger issue).’
In EFT part – 2, I want to show you how to address the same argument issue but in a slightly different way. We’re going to address three different aspects of the same issue during the Set-up Statement, and, use three different Reminder Phrases through the tapping process. This will resonate at a deeper level with a greater, more effective outcome. So let’s go through the process again with the new changes. The basic process is still the same.
Basic Procedure (4 steps)
- SUDS scale (Subjective Unit of Distress)
- Set-up Statement (Description of the negative feeling)
- Reminder Phrase (Abbreviation of set-up statement)
- Tapping Points (Diagram)
Step 1. SUDS Scale (Subjective Unit of Distress)
The SUDS scale won’t change, that’s still a 6 in intensity. Your objective is still the same to get down to zero. If you have any number then, there is more tapping to be done.
Step 2. Set-up Statement
The Set-up statements are going to be different. This time we’re going to make three (3) separate individual statements, out loud, whilst tapping the Point 1, SOH (side of hand), also known as the ‘Karate Chop’ point. Read each statement only once.
Statement 1: ‘Even though (I had an argument with my best friend and now I’m really angry about it) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Statement 2: ‘Even though (I had an argument with my best friend and it was pointless and useless) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Statement 3: ‘Even though (I had an argument with my best friend and it’s weakened our relationship) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Those three statements are just variations to the original statement. You can make more variations as you become more aware of them.
Step 3. Reminder Phrase
The Reminder Phrase is a simple abbreviation of the set-up statements that are repeated whilst tapping.
Reminder Phrase 1: (This anger issue)
Reminder Phrase 2: (This pointless and useless argument)
Reminder Phrase 3: (It’s weakened our relationship)
Step 4. Tapping Points
We’ve created three (3) Set-up statements and now three (3) Reminder Phrases. Now, we’re going to tap on each of the eight (8) tapping points shown on the following diagram alternating each Reminder Phrase in turn. Tap each point 7-10 times lightly but fairly fast, by using the first and second finger of your dominant hand, whilst repeating the Reminder Phrase on each point, starting with Point 2 EB: Eyebrow.
Point 2 EB: Eyebrow. (This anger issue)
Point 3 SE Side of Eye: (This pointless and useless argument)
Point 4 UE Under the Eye: (It’s weakened our relationship)
Point 5 UN Under the Nose: (This anger issue)
Point 6 CH Chin point: (This pointless and useless argument)
Point 7 CB Collar bone: (It’s weakened our relationship)
Point 8 UA Under Arm: (This anger issue)
Point 9 TH Top of Head: (This pointless and useless argument)
The process of tapping points 2-9 is called “One Round” of tapping. Whichever EB, Eyebrow Point 2 you started with, go back and do another round of tapping starting with the other EB, Eyebrow Point 2 and continue with each consecutive point until you finish with Point 9 (again). You will notice that the continuation Reminder Phrase for the next EB, Eyebrow point 2 starts with the Reminder phrase: (It’s weakened our relationship). This is simply because you finished with Point 9 TH, Top of Head with the statement: (This pointless and useless argument). It’s just the next statement in the sequence. Continue alternating each Reminder phrase with each point as you did for the round one of tapping.
When you finish the second round of tapping, take a deep breath, breathing out slowly. You may find that you start yawning, and that’s fine. The whole process only takes about 2 minutes. Now, re-focus on the initial problem and see if the intensity is still a 6 or has it changed and gone lower? Sometimes it can go straight down to a zero, but for this example, we’ll say that the intensity dropped to a 3 on the SUD scale. Just because the intensity hasn’t come down to a zero, it only means there is more work to do. So go back to Step 2 and create a new Set-up Statement while tapping the SOH, Side of Hand Point 1: Remember to repeat each statement out loud, whilst tapping the side of the hand (SOH), also known as the ‘Karate Chop’ point.
Step 2. Set-up Statement
Statement 1: ‘Even though (I still have some remaining anger issue about this argument) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Statement 1: ‘Even though (I still have some remaining pointless and useless argument issues) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Statement 3: ‘Even though (I still have some remaining weakened relationship issues) I deeply and completely accept myself.’
Step 3. Create a new abbreviated Reminder
Reminder Phrase 1: (Remaining anger issue)
Reminder Phrase 2: (Remaining pointless and useless argument issues)
Reminder Phrase 3: (Remaining weakened relationship issues)
Step 4. So again, start tapping each of the points from EB, Eyebrow Point 2 until you reach the Point 9 TH, Top of Head. Then, do a second round of tapping as you did before. When you finish the second round of tapping, take a deep breath, breathing out slowly.
Now, re-focus on the initial problem and see if the intensity is still a 3 or has it changed and gone lower? Hopefully, the intensity will have come down to a zero. If the number has come down to one or two then, there is still some more work to do. Just repeat the process until it reaches a zero.
If, however, the number didn’t reduce from being a 3 then, it means there is another underlying issue and not the anger. Re-focus on the initial issue and assess what comes into your mind now. Then, go through steps 2-4 again to address the new issue. Make sure that when you create these Set-up statements, that you use your own words that resonate with you.
If there is still some intensity, use statements like: ‘Still some remaining….,’ ‘Still a little bit of remaining….,’ ‘Still some issue….’ Any statement that informs the subconscious that there is more work to do. You can’t get it wrong, it’s your intention to focus and work on an issue.
I hope you enjoy the process. Be like a child that sees the sea for the very first time, that ‘awe and wonder.’ Learn to play with this technique and, as always, I look forward to seeing any discussions and interaction from the community. Next week I will share Part 3 of the EFT tapping process where you can choose a different outcome to your problems. This is where you really start to make the greatest changes that you want!!
Senior Mindset Coach at Samuel and Co Trading. While studying and practising many energy healing systems spanning 40 years (EFT, TAT, TCM, Yuen Method, NLP, Applied Kinesiology, Qigong etc). He gained qualifications in Massage, Reflexology, Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy. His goal is to continue to help his clients experience freedom from life’s emotional trauma, stress, negativity, limiting beliefs and to holistically balance the Mind, Body and Spirit.